Is Celibacy Really Easier for Women? Singer Mya Says She 46, Never Married, And No Kids

Is celibacy really “easier” for women… or is that just something people say to make themselves feel better? 

Let’s talk about it.

Now I want to say this…As a minister and a Christian believer I believe sex is sacred and should be only under the covenant of marriage.

Unmarried and single should always mean no sex.

So this post is simply talking about personal perspective.

People love pointing to Mýa—46, never married, no kids, and at one point celibate for seven years—like she’s proof that women can just…

switch it off. No struggle. No desire. No big deal.

Not always true…Women want sex too.

And be honest—does that even make sense?

Women aren’t robots. Men aren’t helpless. And celibacy isn’t some gendered superpower.

What is real though? 

Society conditions men to chase sex like it’s a sport. 

Sadly men are often taught to equate more encounters with their manhood. 

Some men complain that they weren’t even monogamous until marriage.

Meanwhile women are taught to be selective, cautious, even guarded. 

So when a woman chooses celibacy, it gets framed as “natural.” It’s considered a great thing.

Yet, when a man does it? 

Suddenly it’s suspicious, involuntary, or a problem that needs solving.

His sexuality is questioned.

But that’s not biology—that’s programming.

We should all be cautious with our sexuality, bodies, and spirit.

Because sex is so much more than a physical activity.

And let’s not pretend choosing celibacy is “easy” for anyone. 

It takes discipline, self-control, and a clear sense of why you’re doing it. 

Whether it’s for healing, focus, faith, or peace—nobody’s out here accidentally going seven years without intimacy. 

It’s extremely intentional.

So maybe the real question isn’t:

“Is celibacy easier for women?”

Maybe it’s:

Why do we expect men to struggle with self-control… and women to suppress desire?

Yeah. Sit with that.

Now I want to hear from you:

Do you think celibacy is actually easier for one gender—or are we all just dealing with different pressures?

Drop your thoughts